How to Minimize Trauma When Politics Change

Many are anticipating politics to change and these changes are arousing strong feelings. These include fear, grief, emotional collapse and a general sense of overwhelm and exhaustion. For many a strong sense of helplessness combined with an intense… Read More

Childhood Bonding: What To Do If You Are Not Securely Attached?

This is part six in a series of articles about childhood bonding or attachment. In this article I look at what you can do if you believe you did not experience secure attachment. Is it Just Me? You… Read More

Childhood Bonding: Disorganized Attachment

This is part five in a series of articles about childhood bonding or attachment. In this article, I look at disorganized or disoriented attachment. This strategy often results when the parent frightens the child. How Does Disorganized Attachment… Read More

Childhood Bonding: Avoidant Attachment

This is part three in a series of articles about childhood bonding or attachment. In this article, I look at avoidant or dismissive attachment. This strategy often results when the parent rejects the child. How Does Avoidant Attachment… Read More

Childhood Bonding: Anxious Attachment

This is part three in a serious of articles about childhood bonding or attachment. In this article, I look at anxious or preoccupied attachment. This strategy often results when the parent is inconsistently responsive to the child. How… Read More

Childhood Bonding: Secure Attachment

This is part two in a serious of articles about childhood bonding or attachment. In this article, I look at secure attachment. This is the strategy that offers adults the greatest sense of feeling at ease in the… Read More

Bonding or Attachment in Childhood: Why Is It Important?

Why? How well you bonded or attached to your parent (or primary caretaker) as a child gets played out daily in your adult life. This impacts how you relate to family, partners, co-workers and neighbors. The way in… Read More

Be Smart: Know 4 Ways to Prevent Trauma During Therapy

Have you ever seen a therapist for a traumatic event and left feeling re-traumatized? You had hoped that the symptoms would decrease; instead, they stayed the same or even worsened. One primary way to avoid this is to… Read More

6 Steps to Take to Help a Friend Who Self-Harms

You may be shocked when you learn that someone you care about is intentionally cutting or burning herself. Two questions may arise: “Why?” and “What can I do to stop this?” In a prior article I explored some… Read More

Trauma and Self-Harming Behavior

Traumatic events, especially those that happen when you are young, have the potential of disrupting your life in significant ways. One disturbing way that people cope with the emotions and memories is to self-harm or self-mutilate. To many… Read More